Friday, November 15, 2013
silliness & nap time*
every afternoon, monday to friday, i pick her up from her play school. we usually have fresh watermelon on the floor in the kitchen, talking about her morning. then we go up to our bedroom for nap time.
for the first 2 years of her little life of 29 and a half months, she preferred to sleep in her cot, without anybody touching her or sitting with her. at the beginning of this year, we decided to start putting her in our bed for story time, cuddles and some giggles before going to sleep. (we've been doing this with kellen since he came to live with us).
this little video above is a perfect example of....
what love can do. persistence and keep on trying. routines staying the same to accommodate our children. keep on touching and cuddling and kissing them. hug them tightly even if they don't like it. when they pull back or roll away, stretch your leg out and touch their feet, put your arm out, and stroke their back.. even if they push away again, don't get up. stay there. it hurst, but keep on trying.
(in the adoption circles the professionals talk about reactive attachment disorder (RAD)... you can read more about that here. )
today, this last 2 weeks, she has been asking 'mama arm lie'. which in our books are huge steps for her. she falls asleep with her head on my arm, sometimes my shoulder and it is the most amazing feeling. her wanting to be close to me. her wanting to touch her mama before she falls asleep. pure m a g i c .
i told some new friends yesterday that if we stay in the moment, right here, right now, and concentrate on what is really important now, we will be happy. happiness will come out in the form of giggles and joy and full hearts and little girls who is trying everything not to sleep, entertaining their mama's.